Our childhood memories can be the source of destructive behavior patterns in our adult life.
“True Adulthood hinges on acknowledging, accepting, and taking responsibility for loving and parenting one’s own inner child. For most adults, this never happens. Instead, their inner child has been denied, neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected. We are told by society to “grow up,” putting childish things aside.” (Psychology Today) http://bit.ly/1hBCwI2
When we fail to love and support our inner child, the inner child comes out and controls our relationships, jobs, decisions, and emotions.
So how do we learn to love and accept our inner child? Re-live the wonder and fun of a child.
1) Retry the things you loved doing as a child. Visit a playground and swing, climb the monkey bars, go down the slide. Play with toys in a department store. Watch a Disney movie or cartoons that you loved as a child. Play as a child!
2) Stop obsessing over the small stuff. Kids go about their day carefree without a worry in the world. Let go of worries. Who cares if the dishes aren’t done for the moment or the bed isn’t made. The world is not going to end! Let it go!
3) Feel your feelings intensely and then move on. Kids can feel angry, sad, or happy so intensely at the moment they are feeling it, without judging that they shouldn’t feel that way, and then move on. Have you ever seen a child get so angry with a friend one minute and the next minute playing like nothing ever happened? Try it! Feel your emotion with no judgment and then move on.
4) If you have kids (or grandkids), do the stuff they like with them. Swing, blow bubbles, dress up and go Trick-or-Treating, get dirty, jump rope. You will not only have fun but your kids will love the attention you are giving them…it’s a win-win! And if you don’t have kids, borrow some from a relative or neighbor.
5) Stop counting the calories. Eat a lollipop, grab a candy bar, eat an ice cream cone with sprinkles. Afterwards run around like a kid would and burn off the calories.
6) Turn everyday chores into fun. Dance to music or sing loudly while you clean. Shoveling snow, have a snowball fight or build a snowman. Working in your garden or flowerbeds, get dirty.
7) NEVER say “I’m too old”. That’s trash talk in my book. If you tell yourself you are too old, you will be too old. Instead say, “I’m a kid at heart!” Say them both to yourself and see how you feel afterwards. The second creates a light happy feeling. One I would rather feel for sure!
Of course you must come back to your responsibilities of adulthood but return to it with the fun and wonder that a child teaches. Revisit the fun childhood memories (make them up if you can’t remember any or if they were too painful) and the things that would make you feel safe, happy, and fulfilled.
Your inner child will love you for it and your responsible adult will be happier too.
What’s fun for you?
What fun thing did you do as a child?
What is your happiest childhood memory and why?
Share your thoughts in the comments! I love hearing from you.